Small Bites, Big Changes: How Daily Choices Shape Your Soul

Sin doesn’t always come crashing into our lives like a lightning bolt. More often, it creeps in quietly—through small choices, subtle indulgences, and seemingly harmless habits. We tend to think of sin as the big things—the obvious moral failures or shocking betrayals. But in reality, sin often starts with little bites of something we think will satisfy us.

Each time we take a “small bite” of something outside God’s will, we train our minds and hearts to crave it. Over time, these patterns can rewire our brains. What once felt like a small compromise can become the default setting of our thoughts, words, and actions. That’s why Scripture warns that desire, when it takes root, grows into sin—and sin, when fully grown, brings forth death (James 1:14–15).

But here’s the life-changing truth: the same principle works in reverse when we pursue God.

Psalm 34:8 invites us to “taste and see that the Lord is good.” This isn’t just a poetic phrase—it’s a spiritual strategy. When we take even small, intentional moments to experience God’s goodness, we’re training our souls to desire Him more than the fleeting pleasures of sin.

Think of it like this: every time you read a verse, whisper a prayer, offer gratitude, or extend kindness, you’re taking a small bite of God’s goodness. And each of those moments rewires your spiritual appetite, drawing you toward eternal joy instead of temporary satisfaction.

Just as sin reshapes us in destructive ways, daily “tastes” of God’s truth reshape us into people who hunger for what lasts forever.

What if you replaced every small indulgence that dulled your soul with a small bite of God’s goodness?

  • Instead of mindlessly scrolling through gossip, read a Psalm.
  • Instead of replaying an offense in your mind, thank God for one blessing today.
  • Instead of filling your thoughts with worry, meditate on a promise from Scripture.

Small bites make big changes—whether for good or for harm. And what we feed our hearts will eventually feed our lives.

So today, choose to taste and see that the Lord is good. Do it daily, even hourly. Over time, those small, faithful moments will transform your mind, renew your heart, and shape your soul for eternity.

Worship Over Worry: Finding Peace in Troubling Times

Trouble has a way of showing up unannounced.

A medical report.

A broken relationship.

A financial blow.

An unexpected tragedy.

In those moments, something in us reacts instantly. The question is: Do we run to worry—or run to worship?

For many of us, the default is fear. We overthink, panic, lose sleep, and try to control the outcome. But Scripture offers us another way—a higher way: worship over worry. Faith over fear.

1. Worry Is Natural—But It’s Not Neutral

Worry may feel like a natural reaction, but it’s not harmless. Jesus knew how easily our hearts drift toward anxiety, which is why He said:

“Do not worry about your life…” (Matthew 6:25).

Worry doesn’t change your circumstances. It only changes your focus—pulling you away from the God who holds all things together.

It drains our peace. It shrinks our perspective. It steals our joy.

And often, it reveals what we’ve placed our trust in.

2. Worship Changes the Atmosphere

Worship is more than singing songs at church. It’s a posture of the heart—a declaration that even when life is falling apart, God is still worthy.

When Paul and Silas were thrown into prison, their response wasn’t fear—it was praise (Acts 16:25). In the midnight hour, behind locked doors and iron chains, they chose to worship. And something powerful happened: God showed up.

Their worship became the catalyst for their breakthrough.

3. Faith Isn’t Denial—It’s Direction

Choosing worship over worry doesn’t mean pretending everything is okay. It means acknowledging the storm while anchoring your soul in the One who calms it.

Psalm 121:1-2 says:

“I lift up my eyes to the hills—where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth.”

Worship lifts our eyes off the problem and fixes them on the Provider.

4. When Fear Comes Knocking

We can’t always control what happens to us, but we can control how we respond. The next time fear comes knocking, ask yourself:

  • Am I reacting or responding?
  • Am I obsessing over what I can’t fix—or handing it over to the One who can?
  • Am I feeding my fear—or fueling my faith?

Psalm 56:3 says, “When I am afraid, I put my trust in you.”

Notice—it doesn’t say “if.” Fear will come. But it doesn’t have to rule you.

5. Let Worship Be Your Weapon

Worship is a weapon in the battle for your heart and mind. It reminds your soul of who God is:

  • He is faithful.
  • He is present.
  • He is stronger than whatever you’re facing.

When you feel like giving up, lift your hands instead. When fear rises, raise a hallelujah. When you don’t have the answers, worship the One who does.

Final Challenge:

What’s your default reaction when trouble comes?

Worry may feel easier. But worship brings peace. It shifts the focus from the storm to the Savior.

Today, make the choice to trade fear for faith—and let worship lead the way.

Back-to-School: Trusting God in New Seasons

There’s something sacred about new beginnings. Whether you’re a kindergartner nervously clinging to your parent’s hand, a college freshman stepping into a dorm room for the first time, or an adult returning to school to chase a long-held dream — a new school year marks the start of something hopeful, scary, and full of promise.

With sharpened pencils, blank notebooks, and clean schedules comes the chance to learn, grow, and become more of who God has created us to be. But let’s be honest: new beginnings are also filled with uncertainty. What if I don’t make friends? What if I fail? What if I don’t fit in?

In the middle of all the “what ifs,” we find a powerful truth in Isaiah 43:19:

“See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?

I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.”

God is not only present at the start of your journey—He goes ahead of you into every classroom, every hallway, every exam, every challenge. He is the source of courage when we feel afraid and the provider of peace when we feel overwhelmed.

New Beginnings Are Holy Ground

Starting something new is more than a calendar date or a fresh supply list—it’s a spiritual invitation. It’s a call to step forward in faith, trusting that the God who created you has also prepared good things for you.

Maybe you’re starting school for the first time. Maybe you’re returning to finish what you started years ago. Or maybe you’re the parent, grandparent, teacher, or support system behind someone who is stepping into a new season. Whoever you are, know this:

God delights in your beginning. And He will walk with you all the way through.

A Back-to-School Prayer of Encouragement

Gracious God,

As this new school year begins, I lift up every student, teacher, and family preparing for what’s ahead. For the ones starting for the very first time—bring peace to their hearts. For those returning—renew their strength. And for those stepping into unfamiliar places—surround them with courage and grace.

Lord, calm anxious minds. Protect young hearts. Open eyes and ears to learn not just facts, but wisdom. Let this year be more than academics—let it be full of growth, kindness, purpose, and joy.

Bless every hallway, every classroom, every conversation, and every test.

Be the steady rock beneath their feet and the light that leads them forward.

In Jesus’ name,

Amen.

You Are Not Alone

The first day is just the beginning. Whether you’re heading back with confidence or trembling with fear, trust that God is already working through this chapter of your life. With Him, every new beginning becomes a testimony of grace, growth, and unshakable hope.

So go ahead. Take the step.

Open the door.

Walk into that classroom.

Start again—because God goes with you.

Trusting God Through Life’s Challenges

We love the promise in Romans 8:28:

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”

It’s a verse we cling to when life gets tough. But let’s be honest—there are days when it’s hard to believe it.

What about when the diagnosis comes back positive?

What about when the relationship falls apart?

What about when the job doesn’t work out, or the dream dies?

Is God really working all things for good—even this?

1. What Romans 8:28 Does (and Doesn’t) Say

Romans 8:28 is not saying that everything in life is good. Pain, loss, betrayal, heartbreak—these are real, and they hurt. This verse doesn’t minimize suffering. It promises that in the hands of God, nothing is wasted.

The key words are “all things” and “work together.” God is not only present in the good moments—He is actively at work in the worst ones too, weaving them into a bigger, redemptive story that we may not see yet.

2. God’s Good Isn’t Always Comfortable

We often confuse God’s good with our comfort. But God’s definition of good is far deeper—it’s about shaping us to be more like Christ (Romans 8:29). That kind of transformation sometimes comes through struggle, waiting, and things we wouldn’t choose on our own.

Joseph was sold into slavery, betrayed, and imprisoned for years. But looking back, he told his brothers, “You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good” (Genesis 50:20). God didn’t cause the evil, but He used it to save lives and fulfill His purpose.

He can do the same in your story.

3. Trusting God in the Middle of the Mess

It’s one thing to trust God when life makes sense. But real faith is forged in the fire—when the outcomes are uncertain, and we choose to believe anyway.

Trust isn’t about understanding all the details. It’s about believing in the One who holds them. Isaiah 55:8-9 reminds us:

“‘My thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,’ declares the Lord…”

God sees the full picture. You’re only seeing the puzzle piece in front of you.

4. Hope That Holds

Romans 8 is a chapter drenched in hope. Just a few verses before verse 28, Paul says, “The sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed…” (v.18).

We can hold on because God is not done. He’s still writing. Even when we don’t see the outcome yet, we can trust His heart. He has a history of turning graves into gardens, crosses into crowns, and brokenness into beauty.

5. Your Story Isn’t Over

If you’re in a season of pain, doubt, or confusion, don’t lose heart. The same God who raised Jesus from the dead is still working in your life—even in the unseen.

You may not understand everything now. But Romans 8:28 assures us that God is not absent. He’s active. And He’s faithful to finish what He started.

Final Thought:

No matter what you’re walking through, remember this: God is working. Not just in some things. In all things. For your good. For His glory. You may not see it yet, but one day you will.

Until then—trust the process, and trust the One holding it all together.

Resilience and Truth: Lessons from The Coddling of the American Mind

In a cultural moment where anxiety, fragility, and polarization are on the rise, The Coddling of the American Mind by Greg Lukianoff and Jonathan Haidt offers a thoughtful and challenging analysis of what’s gone wrong—especially among younger generations. As Christians seeking wisdom and discernment in an ever-changing world, this book gives us an opportunity to reflect not only on culture but also on how we disciple, parent, teach, and live in the truth.

Book Overview

Lukianoff and Haidt argue that three “great untruths” have taken root in the minds of many young people, particularly in American universities:

The Untruth of Fragility – “What doesn’t kill you makes you weaker.” The Untruth of Emotional Reasoning – “Always trust your feelings.” The Untruth of Us vs. Them – “Life is a battle between good people and evil people.”

They explore how these ideas have contributed to increased mental health struggles, cancel culture, and a climate of fear, where differing viewpoints are seen not merely as disagreements but as threats.

Strengths of the Book from a Christian Perspective

1. A Call for Resilience

Christians are called to endurance and perseverance (Romans 5:3-5; James 1:2-4). The book’s challenge to overprotective parenting and the cultivation of emotional fragility echoes biblical wisdom. As believers, we understand that suffering produces character, and growth often happens through adversity—not comfort.

2. The Importance of Truth over Emotion

The second “untruth” warns against elevating feelings above facts. While emotions are God-given, they are not infallible guides. Scripture cautions us that “the heart is deceitful above all things” (Jeremiah 17:9). This book reminds us that truth must be discerned, not just felt.

3. The Dangers of Tribalism

The authors critique the “us vs. them” mindset that dominates much of our political and cultural discourse. The gospel calls us to love our enemies, bless those who persecute us, and pursue reconciliation (Matthew 5:44; 2 Corinthians 5:18). The book offers a needed pushback against the moral absolutism and groupthink that lead to division rather than understanding.

4. Advocacy for Free Inquiry

Haidt and Lukianoff defend intellectual diversity and open dialogue. As Christians who believe in absolute truth, we don’t need to fear questions or differing perspectives. In fact, respectful engagement can deepen faith and lead others to the light of Christ.

Challenges for Christian Readers

1. Secular Assumptions

While the authors present their arguments with clarity and depth, their framework is entirely secular and humanistic. For example, their solution to cultural fragility is a sort of “cognitive behavioral” toughness, not spiritual renewal. Christian readers will need to fill in the theological gaps—recognizing that true healing and transformation come from the gospel, not just mental resilience.

2. Potential Misapplication in Parenting or Church Life

Some readers might overcorrect, using the book to justify harshness or dismissiveness toward emotional sensitivity. But Scripture is full of compassion: Jesus wept (John 11:35), comforted the brokenhearted (Matthew 5:4), and called us to be gentle (Galatians 5:23). A mature response doesn’t reject emotions, but it disciples them.

3. Reception Across Generations and Cultures

Older generations may resonate with the book’s critiques of fragility, while younger readers might feel misunderstood or blamed. Church leaders and parents should take care to listen with empathy, not just wield this book as a cultural cudgel. Additionally, Christians from minority or marginalized backgrounds might find the book overlooks the very real pain and trauma that shape some people’s sensitivities. The challenge is to hold truth and grace together.

How Should the Church Respond?

The Coddling of the American Mind is not a Christian book, but it invites us to reflect biblically:

Are we preparing young people to face hardship with faith? Are we forming disciples who know how to handle disagreement without demonizing others? Are we teaching our children (and ourselves) to discern truth beyond the noise of feelings?

Our response is not to lament culture with cynicism but to disciple with purpose. We can cultivate emotional and spiritual maturity by anchoring people in Scripture, modeling healthy dialogue, and leading with both conviction and compassion.

Final Thoughts

There’s much to gain from reading The Coddling of the American Mind—especially for Christian educators, parents, pastors, and young adults. But like all cultural critiques, it must be tested against the Word. The ultimate answer to the fragility of our age isn’t found in tougher skin alone—but in hearts transformed by grace, minds renewed by truth, and lives shaped by the resilience of the cross.

Let us not merely raise stronger minds, but form faithful souls.

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”

—Romans 12:2

God and Suffering: Finding Hope Through Pain

“If God is good and loving, why does He allow pain and suffering?”

It’s one of the hardest and most honest questions we can ask. Whether it’s the loss of a loved one, a cancer diagnosis, a broken relationship, or the silence of unanswered prayer—pain shakes us. It makes us question not only our circumstances but sometimes even the goodness of God.

But here’s the truth: pain is not proof of God’s absence. Sometimes, it’s the very place where we experience Him most deeply.

1. Pain Isn’t Always Punishment

One of the greatest misconceptions in the Christian life is that pain always means God is angry or punishing us. But Scripture tells a different story. In fact, Jesus said, “In this world, you will have trouble…” (John 16:33). Even the most faithful believers walked through deep suffering—Job, Paul, David, and even Jesus Himself.

Pain doesn’t always mean you’re doing something wrong. Sometimes it means you’re on the front lines of what God is doing in you.

2. God Uses Pain to Shape Us

Romans 5:3–5 says:

“…we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope…”

God never wastes pain. He uses it to:

  • Refine our character
  • Deepen our dependence on Him
  • Help us develop compassion for others
  • Tear down idols that we’ve built
  • Remind us this world is not our home

The pain you’re walking through might just be the soil where faith is growing stronger than ever.

3. The Cross Shows Us God’s Heart

If you ever doubt God’s goodness in your pain, look at the cross.

Jesus suffered unimaginable agony—not because He deserved it, but because we did. And in that suffering, He defeated sin and death forever. Our God is not distant from suffering; He stepped into it. He knows what it feels like to be betrayed, abandoned, and in agony.

Your pain isn’t ignored. It’s understood.

4. What We Can Learn in the Fire

Pain can become a teacher if we let it. In suffering, we often learn:

  • Who we really are
  • Who God really is
  • What truly matters
  • How to trust even when we don’t understand

Sometimes the question isn’t “Why am I going through this?” but “What is God trying to show me through this?”

5. There’s Hope in the Hurt

One of the greatest promises in Scripture is that pain is not the end of the story.

Revelation 21:4 gives us this hope:

“He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain…”

This isn’t wishful thinking—it’s a guaranteed future for every follower of Jesus. Until that day, we hold on to His presence, His promises, and His purpose—even in the pain.

Final Encouragement:

You may not have all the answers today. You may never understand the full “why” of your suffering. But you’re not alone. God is near. He’s working. He’s shaping. And He’s walking with you through every step of the valley.

Pain isn’t the end of your story—it might just be the beginning of something God will use for His glory.

Choose Lasting Values Over Temporary Gains

We live in a culture obsessed with accumulation—more money, more followers, more recognition, more stuff. We race from task to task, goal to goal, chasing success, status, and satisfaction. And yet, for all the striving, many of us feel empty. Why? Because we’ve built our lives on things that fade.

Jesus once asked, “What good will it be for someone to gain the whole world, yet forfeit their soul?” (Matthew 16:26). That question is just as relevant today as it was 2,000 years ago. At some point, we all must pause and ask: Am I investing in eternal things or chasing what won’t last?

1. The Illusion of More

It’s easy to fall into the trap of materialism. We don’t need to be wealthy to be consumed by wealth. Even the desire for “just a little more” can blind us to what really matters. Social media doesn’t help—it paints filtered pictures of success and joy, often built on worldly achievements.

But God reminds us in 1 John 2:17:

“The world and its desires pass away, but whoever does the will of God lives forever.”

Are we building our lives around what’s temporary or what’s eternal?

2. Eternal Investments

Scripture invites us to store up treasures in heaven (Matthew 6:19-21), where rust and moth do not destroy. But what does that really look like?

  • Loving people deeply, even when it costs us.
  • Serving the least, the lost, and the overlooked.
  • Sharing the gospel boldly and living it authentically.
  • Giving generously—not just from our wallets, but our time and energy.
  • Choosing character over comfort and faithfulness over fame.

These are the investments that echo into eternity.

3. Priorities That Preach

When others look at your life, what does it preach?

Does your schedule, your spending, your conversations, your relationships—all the “little” things—point toward Christ or toward comfort? Jesus wasn’t against people having things; He was against things having people.

You can work hard, save wisely, and enjoy God’s blessings—and still live with eternity in mind. The key is who or what sits on the throne of your heart.

4. Living for What Outlasts You

The truth is, every earthly kingdom we build—every job, every title, every dollar, every post—is temporary. But the impact you make when you love, serve, forgive, disciple, and give? That outlasts you. That’s the legacy that matters.

So ask yourself:

  • What am I truly chasing?
  • What will remain after I’m gone?
  • How can I live today in a way that impacts eternity?

Final Thought:

You have one life—invest it well. Don’t settle for what fades. Choose what lasts. Choose Jesus.

Overcoming Obstacles to Trust God Fully

We sing songs like “I Surrender All” and “I Will Trust in You,” but deep down, many of us still hold back.

We believe in God—but trusting Him fully? That’s another story.

So let’s get honest: What’s holding you back from fully trusting God?

The Struggle Is Real

We all have fears and doubts that make surrender feel risky. Maybe you’re afraid God’s plan won’t match your own. Maybe you’ve prayed for things in the past and felt disappointed. Maybe trusting means letting go of something you’ve been holding tightly—your career, your children, your finances, your future.

And let’s face it: trust requires vulnerability. It’s the bold act of saying, “God, I’m not in control… and I’m okay with that.”

That’s easier said than done.

Common Roadblocks to Trusting God

If you’re struggling to trust God, you’re not alone. Here are a few common obstacles that often get in the way:

1. Fear of Losing Control

Many of us find security in control. But control is an illusion. Trusting God means surrendering our plans, preferences, and timing—and believing His are better.

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.” (Proverbs 3:5)

2. Past Disappointment

Have you ever felt like God didn’t come through? Those moments can leave wounds. But often, what we see as “unanswered” prayers were really “better” answers in disguise—or invitations to deeper faith.

3. Doubt in God’s Goodness

We may believe God is powerful, but do we believe He’s good? If we question His heart toward us, we’ll struggle to hand over ours. Remember: His love was proven on the cross (Romans 5:8).

4. The Need for Certainty

We want guarantees. We want to know the outcome. But trust isn’t about certainty—it’s about confidence in God’s character. He may not show us the whole map, but He gives us the next step.

How to Start Trusting God More Fully

So how do we move from hesitation to wholehearted surrender?

1. Name What You’re Holding Back

Be honest. Is it your job? Your family? A future dream? A painful memory? Naming it helps you release it.

2. Talk to God About It

Don’t fake it. God can handle your fears, frustrations, and doubts. Read the Psalms—David poured out his soul honestly, and God called him “a man after My heart.”

3. Remember His Track Record

Make a list of times God has been faithful. Look back to move forward. He was trustworthy then—He will be trustworthy now.

4. Take One Step of Obedience

Trust grows as you act on it. You don’t need to leap the whole distance—just take the next right step. God meets you there.

5. Surround Yourself with Faith Builders

Talk with others who’ve learned to trust God through hard seasons. Their testimonies can strengthen your own.

Trust Is a Journey, Not a Switch

Fully trusting God doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a lifelong process of loosening your grip and growing your faith.

But here’s the beautiful part: God doesn’t wait for your trust to be perfect—He just asks you to bring what you have. A mustard seed will do (Matthew 17:20).

So ask yourself today:
What’s one thing I’m holding back from God?
And then pray:

“Lord, help me trust You with this, too.”

Because life with God is best lived with open hands—and a surrendered heart.

Finding Christ in Superhero Stories: A Spiritual Journey

How a superhero movie points us toward Jesus

Have you ever walked out of a movie theater feeling like you just sat through a sermon?

That’s how I felt after watching the new Superman film.

Now, I went in expecting action, drama, and some epic cape-flapping scenes — you know, the usual superhero stuff. But what I wasn’t expecting was how deeply the film would reflect spiritual truths. Beneath the superhuman strength and high-flying rescues was a story about identity, hope, sacrifice, and choosing good in a world that doesn’t always appreciate it.

It was, in many ways, the Gospel in disguise.

1. Identity: Living Between Two Worlds

Superman — or Kal-El — is born of another world, but raised on Earth. He’s an outsider trying to live among us, never quite fitting in, yet choosing to belong anyway.

That tension is something every Christian can relate to. Philippians 3:20 says, “Our citizenship is in heaven.” We are people living in a world that is not our final home. Like Clark Kent, we walk around in ordinary clothes while carrying something extraordinary inside us — the Spirit of Christ.

The new Superman movie doesn’t just entertain — it holds up a mirror to our identity. Are we living into who we truly are in Christ? Or are we trying to fit in where we were never meant to?

2. Power Used for Good

Superman has unmatched power, but he doesn’t use it to rule. He uses it to serve.

Sound familiar?

Philippians 2:6-7 says Jesus, “though He was in the form of God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to His own advantage… but emptied Himself.”

Jesus had all authority, but He chose humility. Superman echoes that principle — a strong being who doesn’t lord his strength over others, but steps in to protect the weak, restore justice, and bring peace.

In our world of power struggles and self-promotion, that message is deeply countercultural.

3. Choosing to Belong

Superman will never fully be “one of us.” But he chooses to belong. He plants roots. He lives with empathy. He bears the burden of being misunderstood because he knows his mission.

Jesus, too, stepped into our world knowing He would be rejected. “He came to His own, and His own did not receive Him” (John 1:11). But He came anyway. He chose to be with us. He entered into our pain, our humanity, our suffering.

It’s a reminder that true belonging isn’t about perfect acceptance — it’s about chosen love.

4. Hope in a Cynical World

One of the most moving lines in the movie is when Superman is asked why he still believes in doing good when the world constantly doubts and misunderstands him.

His answer? “Because someone has to.”

That’s Gospel right there.

Romans 5:8 tells us, “While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Jesus didn’t wait until we got our act together. He stepped into our mess and chose hope — because someone had to.

That’s the call on us as believers too. To stand for goodness even when it’s unpopular. To bring hope when the world expects despair. To reflect light even when darkness seems to win.

The Real Hero

Now, let me be clear: Superman isn’t Jesus. He’s a fictional character. But his story points us to something real. Something greater. A Savior who left His rightful place, entered our brokenness, restrained His power, and gave His life — not just to save us, but to restore us.

So the next time you watch a movie, especially one like Superman, keep your spiritual eyes open. You might be surprised where you see the fingerprints of God.

Because sometimes the Gospel comes wrapped in red capes and action scenes.

And when it does, it reminds us of who we are, who we belong to, and who we’re called to be.

Closing Thought:

Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus.

Live with courage.

Act with compassion.

And shine with hope in a world that desperately needs it.

Because someone has to.

And by God’s grace — you can.

From Routine to Relationship: Connecting with God Meaningfully

There’s something deeply satisfying about checking things off a to-do list. Finish the laundry? ✅. Get the kids to school? ✅. Read a devotional? ✅. Say a prayer? ✅. Go to church? ✅.

But somewhere between the bullet points and the Bible app streaks, we have to pause and ask: Am I really spending time with God, or am I just checking a box?

The Danger of Routine Without Relationship

Spiritual disciplines—like prayer, scripture reading, worship, and service—are beautiful gifts that help us grow closer to God. But they can become empty rituals if we forget why we do them. When our focus shifts from relationship to routine, we risk replacing intimacy with obligation.

Jesus had strong words for the religious leaders of His day who honored God with their lips but whose hearts were far from Him (Matthew 15:8). They did all the “right” things—but missed the Person behind the practice.

If we’re honest, we’ve all been there. Reading the Bible while our minds wander to work deadlines. Whispering a quick prayer just to say we prayed. Singing worship songs with our mouths while our hearts are somewhere else. It’s easy to do spiritual things for the sake of doing them—but God desires our presence, not our performance.

God Wants Your Heart, Not Just Your Habit

Imagine spending time with your closest friend or spouse where every interaction is scripted, rushed, and distracted. That relationship would quickly grow distant. The same is true with God. He invites us into a relationship, not a routine.

Psalm 42:1 captures the longing we’re meant to have:

“As the deer pants for streams of water, so my soul pants for you, my God.”

This is the heartbeat of real time with God. Not obligation. Not guilt. Desire.

How to Move from Routine to Relationship

If you’re feeling like your quiet time has gone quiet—or your devotional life has grown dull—here are a few ways to rekindle real connection:

  1. Start with honesty. Tell God where you really are. He’s not interested in polished prayers but in your real presence.
  2. Change your rhythm. If your quiet time feels stale, try something new: journal your prayers, walk and pray aloud, read Scripture in a different translation, or sit in silence and listen.
  3. Focus on quality, not quantity. God isn’t grading you. Spend five heartfelt minutes with Him—it may be more powerful than an hour of distracted reading.
  4. Ask for hunger. If your desire for God has faded, ask Him to renew it. He promises that those who seek Him will find Him (Jeremiah 29:13).
  5. Remind yourself of who God is. He’s not a taskmaster. He’s your Father. Your Shepherd. Your Savior. He delights in you.

A Relationship Worth More Than a Checkmark

Let’s be people who don’t just look spiritual but who live connected to the Spirit. Let’s stop treating time with God like a religious requirement and start treasuring it as the life-giving relationship it is.

God isn’t waiting for you to impress Him. He’s waiting for you to be with Him.

So the next time you pick up your Bible or bow your head in prayer, pause and ask yourself: Is this about God or just about getting it done? Your answer might just change your spiritual life.